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The loss of the thread of family continuity, a deep identification with his ancestors whose genes are stamped into every cell of his body, contributes to the sense of insecurity felt by the adoptee. No matter how competent and loving the adoptive mother, the child shares no genetic history with her. He is deprived of that primitive relationship with the mother with whom he did share that history.–Nancy Verrier, Primal Wound

Below is an ever-growing, ever-changing list of links fresh from the minds of adoptees all over the damn place. If you or someone you know is an adoptee who has a blog and you don’t see it here, leave the link in the comment box and I’ll be certain to add it. Thanks for visiting!

According to Addie
Angel
Another Amy
Cheaper Than Therapy
Dan
Dory
Elise
Her Indoors
Jessie
Joy
Julie
Justice
Lisa
Margie
Mokuso
Paragraphein
Recovery from OVCA Nicole
The Improper Adoptee
Paula
Possum
Quinn
Still Born
Suz
Theresa
Resist Racism
Emily Kogod
Possum
Mary
Adoption Animal House
Amy Adoptee
Sparks and Butterflies
Made In Korea
Ethnically Incorrect
Nina
Twice the Rice
Deborah
Wraith
Umbilicly Challenged
Stacy
Bryan
Julia’s World
A Birth Project
One Voice
FamiLee Life
Granetknot
Mia Saving Grace
Rhonda’s Ruminations
Adoption Void
Glenn
Andie
Adopted Life
Adopt This! (Issycat)
1966 Maryland Adoptee
73 Adoptee
A Birth Project
A Moment in Thought
A Search for Survivors
According to Addie
Adopted Jane
Adopted The Movie
Adoptee Journal
Adoptee/Drummer/Mac Geek rambles
Adopting my Identity
Adoption Animal House
Adoption as an Option
Anti-Adoption
Aussie Adoptee
Bastard Corner
Bastard in a Handbasket
Bijou’s Bastardized Odyssey
Biologically Speaking
B is for Bastard
Bleatings of a Sacrifical Lamb
Blog On
Blue Moon
Born Today
Borrowed Notes
Boston Uncommon
Cancer Distraction
Casper Andersen
Champagne and Tears
Coleman Moms and Babes
Confessions of a Cyrokid
DNA Diaries
Eilujion
Ethnically Incorrect Daughter
Fayrie Tales
Finding Jane Doe
Fumbling Toward Divinity
Get More Abortions
Green Mountain Country Mama
Grumppopotamus
Harlow’s Monkey
Having Been Adopted
Heart, Mind and Seoul
Hearts Wide Open
I Have to Find My Sanity Somewhere!
I, Cartographer
iBastard
Infant Atwell
It Came From the Cabbage Patch
It’s Really Me
Jane’s Blog
Joanne’s Space
John
Joy’s Division
Julia’s JAM
Kimette
Land of the Not-So-Calm
Lightning Crashes
Lisa Talks
Living, Laughing, Whining
Lisa Marie
Lizard Chronicles
Marilee
Misplaced Baggage
My Birth Name is Allison
My Name is Simon Bell
Neil’s Blog
Neither Here Nor There
Newly Orphaned
No Greater Act of Love
No Matter How Small
Once Upon A Time My Name Was Kimberly
One Adoptee’s Journey
One Lucky Bastard
Only an Adoptee
Opening the Door
Orphan Daughter
Persona Ingrata
Possum’s Place
Reading, Writing, Living
Rights of Adoptees
Ruth Mary Celeste
Shadow Between Two Worlds
Sixth Sister
The Original Heping
The Transracial Korean Adoptee Nexus
Thin Pink Line
Third Cat Productions / Going Home
Through devastation to redemption
True of Voice
Twice the Rice
Umbilicly_Challenged
Ungrateful Little Bastard
vietK
Voices in Adoption
Wes Unruh
What do I do now?
Without a Tribe
Wraith’s Wrealm

One Response to “Adoptee Blogs”

Lisa Says:
July 23, 2009 at 3:48 pm | Reply
Hey I’m an adoptee with a blog…

Permanent PTSD

[PERMANENT = existing perpetually; everlasting, esp. without significant change; PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) = a severe and ongoing emotional reaction to an extreme psychological trauma]

"The child separated from his/her mother at or soon after birth misses the mutual and deeply satisfying mother-child relationship, the roots of which lie in that deep area of personality where the physiological and psychological are merged. This is part of a biological sequence... It is doubtful whether the relationship of the child to its post-partum mother, in its subtler effects, can be replaced by even the best of substitute mothers. The infant is traumatized by its separation from the mother at birth."
--Florence Clothier ("The Psychology of the Adopted Child")

"The separation of mother and child causes psychic shock and should never occur unless there is no other choice. The wound makes the infant feel that part of itself has disappeared, leaving it with a feeling of incompleteness or lack of wholeness."
--Nancy Verrier ("The Primal Wound")

Not knowing who your genetic relatives are causes a LACK of what Erik Erickson ("Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self") called "ACTUALITY," by which he meant "not feeling connected to people and events in a real way."
--

Pregnant? Keep Your Baby

DON'T LET THEM COERCE YOU!

Here's why:

If you surrender your baby to adoption, you will be condemning him or her to suffer these proven harmful effects:

1. The severe trauma of being separated from you will radiate throughout every aspect of your baby's life. Your baby will experience your loss as the psychological death of his mother. There will never be closure.

2. Your baby will know the difference between you and his female adopter because he has bonded with you during your pregnancy. He knows your scent and your heartbeat. He seaches for the smell of your milk - not hers.

3. Your baby will feel abandoned by you, often resulting in a lifelong inability to trust anyone.

4. Your baby will always wonder why you didn't keep him and will blame himself for not being lovable enough to keep - a todder's realization that they were adopted. Many adult adopted people find they still carry this feeling inside - and it influences adult relationships.

5. As your baby grows up, your child may feel like a misfit and will suffer from low self esteem.

6. Your child may think about you constantly. This may cause your child to have difficulty concentrating on his schoolwork. Your child will be labeled a "dreamer" and a "bad student," further harming his chances for success in life.

7. Your child's adopters may not understand his lack of concentration and he could easily be misdiagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD). If misdiagnosed, they will force your child to take drugs that he doesn't need.

8. Your child will lose his true identity while his adopters try to force him to be like them.

9. Your child will have no sense of his past which will make it difficult for him to envision his future.

10. Your child may suppress his true feelings and live an emotionally-numb life in order to survive the tragedy of his separation from you compounded by his adoption.

11. As your child becomes an adolescent he will have great difficulty establishing a sense of self because he will have no sense of his true history or heritage.

12. As your child becomes an adult he may have difficulty choosing a career and a mate due to his fear of commitment and abandonment.

13. Your child's adopters will probably not acknowledge that raising an adopted child is different from raising a child of their own. They will further burden him by telling him that he should forget about you and be grateful that they adopted him and gave him a home because you did not.

14. Nothing anyone does or says can ever make up for the loss of your child's first family!

15. You will never be able to change the past and undo the lifelong adverse effects of adoption on your child!

--Originally found on Exiled Mothers. "Coersion Tactics Used on Moms" link is now a "404 not found" page.

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